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Dear Readers, I am Back

Dear readers, I am finally back.  Things have been a tad chaotic as of late, to say the least. I recently moved into a new house.  It is a beautiful house, and I have so much to be thankful for.  The move is bitter sweet, however, as I had to put my sweet senior cat, Momo to sleep in the midst of the move, due to organ failure.  I shall be writing a blog post dedicated to my dearly departed feline friend in the near future to celebrate her life.  She gave me ten wonderful years!  She was the most loving little cat I have ever seen.  All she ever did was love.  She is deeply missed.

After a three year long custody battle, I am delighted to say that my little one is finally safe, and home to stay!  Three long, grueling years!  I am ecstatic!  I deeply apologize for my recent absence.  I am happy to be back, and look forward to catching up with all of you later this evening.  Sending much love your way, dear friends!

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Calling All Domestic Violence Survivors to Unite!

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Dear readers, on behalf of my mentors, and dear friends at Two-Lifestyles Women’s Empowerment Program, I invite you to join us for this year’s 3rd Annual D*ASH walk on APRIL 14th, 2018 in Palmdale, CA.  This event is named after two special ladies who are very dear to the heart of the Two-Lifestyles team, the ‘D’ representing Denise Battey, and ‘ASH’ representing Ashley Glick, our fallen butterfly.  These beloved ladies lost their lives to horrific crimes, one to Sexual Assault, and the other to Domestic Violence.   In honor of them, we vowed to keep their memories alive by educating, and bringing awareness of Domestic Abuse to our communities.

Often, victims of Domestic Violence stay with their abusers, because they have nowhere else to go.  The money Two-Lifestyles obtains from this event shall be utilized to build Ashley’s Safe House, a house built in, Ashley’s honor to provide a place of refuge, a safe haven for those that are still in shackles seeking escape.  There is hope, there is tomorrow, and you do have a future.  Let us march together in unity!  Let your story inspire others!  Let our numbers instill courage!  Let your voice be heard, and remind others that they, too have a voice!  Will you join me?  Let us break the shackles of domestic abuse together my friends!

For more information on how to be a part of this amazing event, please contact my mentor, Adrianne by email at adrianne@twolifestyles.com, or call her at 661-402-3076 ext 102.  The two Lifestyles agency is located at 1224 E. Avenue S Ste. B Palmdale, California 93550.


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Irreplaceable

Dear readers, as we embark upon this holiday of love, I wish to remind you of your true value.  As a society, we often tend to unfairly compare ourselves to others, amplifying their traits in which we most admire, whilst simultaneously diminishing the value of our own.  We make light of our own value, our own gifts, our own talents, and everything that makes us so wonderfully unique.  We tend to place those we admire on pedestals, unaware that what we see is, but a grandiose mirage.  We take not into account that those very individuals in which we make our comparisons, too have flaws, that they are also imperfect beings.

Dear friends, I wish to share with you a secret: Someone in which you are currently unaware is comparing their self to YOU, right now, at this very moment!  We spend our entire lives longing to be someone else, yet we never quite realize that there is also someone that so desperately wishes to embody everything that we, ourselves are…  That girl with the body that you long for, she envies you for your ability to make friends.  That strait A student, envies you for your laid back persona.  That artistic friend that you wish to be like, wishes she could be an athlete just like you.  That classmate that is gifted with playing an instrument, longs for your singing voice.   The list goes on, and on…  Someone, somewhere, wishes to be  JUST LIKE YOU!

It is perfectly alright to admire others, but let us not permit our admiration to cloud our perception of our own self worth!  There is not a single person on this planet that ever lived, currently lives, or shall ever live, that embodies everything in which you are; all of your quirks, your talents, your gifts, your very persona, the very being in which you are is a one of a kind!  There shall never be another YOU!  You a so beautifully, and wonderfully unique!  I wish to convey to you just how amazing you actually are.  You are deeply loved, a true treasure.   I assure you that you are needed by so many, that you are indeed valuable, a priceless gem.  You inspire countless individuals on a daily basis that you are not even aware of!  There is, and only shall ever be, one you  You are irreplaceable!

The Lasting Impact of Domestic Violence on Children

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Dear readers, I wish to discuss with you a topic of dire importance today.  Our children are society’s most vulnerable citizens, their very survival depending solely on us, their parents.  Our children rely on us to provide them with the tools they need to grow into thriving young adults.  Ultimately, the environment we subject our children to can impact them drastically well into adulthood, and continue to do so throughout their entire lives.  I cannot stress this enough.

Children exposed to domestic violence in their households exhibit the same pattern of brain activity as soldiers exposed to combat.  Children who live in households where domestic violence occurs tend to feel isolated, and vulnerable.  They witness horrific events that no child should ever see, and hear things no child should ever hear.  They live in a domestic warzone, being exposed to  bloodshed, rage, trauma, and terror on a daily basis.  What should be a place of refuge is a living nightmare that they, themselves, are powerless to escape.

Studies relay that approximately 3-4 million children between the ages of 3-17 are at risk of exposure to domestic violence annually.  Common behavioral responses in children that witness domestic violence include acting out, emotional withdrawal, and anxiety.  They may exhibit developmental delays in speech, as well as delays in motor, and cognitive skill development.  Children that live in domestic violent households are at substantial risk of being abused as well.  Abusers  will begin targeting the children as a means to control, and hurt the other spouse.  This dance for power and control is deadly, with approximately 1,500 women being murdered by their significant other each year.   Girls that witness domestic violence in the home are at high risk of choosing abusive partners when they enter adulthood.  Likewise, boys that witness domestic violence are more likely to become abusers themselves, thus, continuing the vicious cycle into the next generation.

Dear friends, our children are our greatest treasure; they are priceless!  The choices we make as parents today pave the road that our children shall travel tomorrow.  The environment we subject our children to is the very foundation of the future that awaits them.  Domestic violence is a cycle; it is up to us to break this cycle!  Every child deserves a champion, a hero, a protector.  Our children need us to step up to the plate, and be the champion that they seek.  Let us raise strong, confident children that believe they can take on the world!  Let us raise independent, self efficient young adults that need not recover from their childhoods!  Let us weave a brighter tomorrow for our children, a tomorrow that is free from the shackles of domestic violence!


You Hold the Pen

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Dear readers, as we enter a shining new year, I wish to offer you some words of encouragement.  How often do we, as a society, permit the judgements of others to affect our choices?  How often do we conform our dreams to fit the expectations of those we hold most dear?  How often do we allow the perceived limitations bestowed upon us to ensnare our psyche?  How often do we allow said perceived limitations to become reality, denying ourselves the very opportunity to reach our full potential?  For how long shall we continue to hide our true light from the world?

Dear friends, I wish to remind you today that YOU are the author of your own life!  For far, too long, we have unwittingly permitted the world around us to handle our pen, and write in our Life’s Book.  The time is now, to reclaim your pen!  Dare to dream!  Dare to write the story so many have long deemed to be impossible!  You hold the pen; you hold the power.  You, and only you, are the author of your life.  Happy New Year, my friends.  I believe in you.  May your dreams come true!

 

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Crushing Labels

Dear readers, I invite and encourage you to participate in an eye opening activity with me.  You will need two sheets of paper, and a pen for said activity.  Take the first sheet of paper, and place it in front of you; tuck the second sheet away to the side for the time being.  Now, take your pen, and write a list of every label anyone has ever bestowed upon you.  Every crass judgement, every name, every anticipation of failure, every single perceived limitation anyone has ever verbally thrown your way, write it.

Once finished, take the list of labels into your hands, hold it out in front of you, and close your eyes.  Permit the mental images to enter your mind, and all of the painful memories associated with each label written upon the paper in which you currently hold.  For a mere moment, let them awash you.  Now, open your eyes and crush them!  Crumple the paper, and discard it into the trash bin.

Take the second sheet of paper, and your pen in your hand.  You are now going to write another list.  In this list, I want you to write all of your goals, your dreams, your favorite personal traits, and every personal achievement in which you are proud of.  Every single solitary one, write them down.

Once finished, take your new list into your hands, just as you have done with your first list prior; hold it out in front of you, and close your eyes.  I want you to imagine, imagine yourself doing what so many have long perceived for you to be impossible.  Visualize yourself, as if on a track field riddled with intimidating hurdles blocking your path to victory; imagine as you conquer each hurdle with leaps and bounds.  Imagine your very own personal wishing star glowing as a beacon in a pitch black night sky; visualize yourself standing boldly with your arm held outstretched, claiming what is yours.  Imagine your light within your lantern enshrouded by a dark cloak, your light hidden from the world around you; visualize yourself, as you remove said cloak, and forever discard it.  Now, open your eyes once more, and see your true self, the labels forever destroyed.  For you, and only you, hold the power over your life.